Being a teenager is arguably the hardest time of your life; you have little autonomy, your days are filled with school (which often seems pointless), your nights and weekends (and days, come to think of it) are filled with an intense social pressure to conform to other peoples expectations. You probably have easy access to drugs, alcohol, random sexual experiences, but no one gives you good information about any of them. Surviving being a teenager is hard work, and our adults should treat us, teenage children , with respect not only because it’s the only way we’ll actually listen to them, but also because more often than not, we deserve it.
Some teens are comfortable talking about sex, asking questions, and telling you what is going on in their life. Others aren’t. The teen may not ask you explicit questions so adults have to pay attention to what is not being talked about, and how sex might be raised indirectly. Stories about something that happened at school, or a reaction to a particular class where sex may have been discussed, may be their way of raising the subject with you. Don’t expect a big confession or a clearly laid out Q & A session.
For us it’s not about abstinence or contraception; It’s about abstinence and contraception: We get it. The best way to protect ourselves is not to have sex. But we also need to know about contraception. It seems to us that adults waste an awful lot of time arguing about all this.
They wouldn’t let their teen start driving a car if they had never had driving lessons, and similarly as a parent it is their right (and probably their responsibility) to make sure they know how to keep safe with whatever kind of sexual exploration they are doing.
The grownups all talk about teens as if there is no difference between a 13 year old and a 16 or 18 year old. There is a world of difference in terms of maturity, knowledge, lived experience, social skills, and more. To my mind they have to treat a teen as an individual, not a statistic that you read about in the paper. Try to get a sense of where you think your teenager is at in terms of their experience and maturity around sex. If there is another example as a point of comparison this might be easier. If there isn’t, may be it’s better to try to get information from friends who do. Talk about your experiences and use this as a guide.
Up until now, there are still many countries and governments that do not openly embrace the use of contraceptives like condoms. Those countries are usually heavily persuaded form interest groups who are open in opposing the use and sale of condoms especially to teenagers. Advocates say that teaching adolescents how to use condoms is like teaching them how to enjoy sex, and perhaps encouraging sex in general. People have argued that education on the use of condoms might lead people to think that it is easy to have casual sex with just anyone as long as there are condoms used for protection. Nowadays, more governments are embracing programs to educate people about the use of condoms. When the risks and dangers of sexually transmitted diseases surfaced, more people and governments finally accepted the fact that citizens, especially young people, should be educated on how to use condoms to help curtail the spread of STDs.
Especially to us, young people, there is always a risk that there might be unprotected sex if they are not educated of the severe consequences of not practicing safe sex. In the end, teaching of the proper use of condoms would still be the best and most effective option. Teenagers are starting to openly understand the use and need for condoms.
I have visited set of the English sites on struggle against AIDS and on the majority of them is said, that condoms on 100 % are effective for prevention of infection of a HIV. And only on some there is a reservation, what this of 100 % reliability is meant only provided that condoms are used correctly. In such articles possibility is at least supposed that they can bring up, but in that case the originator is the unreliable human factor instead of the producer of a condom. There is also all essence of a problem in it.
Even if the person knows all instruction on its use, it does not exclude risk of that the condom can tear or act in film.
Unilateral propagation of condoms can mislead teenagers, that with condoms with them never to happen nothing, that can push them to even more risky behaviour: to more frequent change of partners. The more sexual contacts and partners the person has, the the risk of more increases that he to meet a HIV of the infected partner or that the condom will tear once, will slide off or on another the reasons will bring. It is a matter of time when it can occur. Condoms can protect from diseases transferred through liquids. The clamidiosis, a HIV, a hepatitis concern such infections In, a syphilis, a cytomegalovirus and others a gonorrhoea. But some infections are transferred at contact to a skin. causing skin defeats (a herpes, a syphilis), can be on the sites which have been not closed by a condom. At contact of the skin not protected by a condom or mucous membranes with such sites there can be an infection. The condom will not protect also from an itch and pubis louses.
The majority of the countries of Europe and the world, unfortunately, struggle with AIDS only by means of programs which are constructed basically on unilateral propagation of condoms without attempts to change moral values of a society. Concepts of morals and recognised ethical standards are before our eyes washed away centuries. Because of loss of these values occurs moral расклад a society which cannot distinguish between black any more and white. We need to be put on, that Russia will win common sense and that propagation of a healthy way of life which puts an accent on moral sexual behaviour, it will be included in a state policy of struggle against AIDS. We should be a good example in it in our preventive work. We do not have other exit because if salt will lose the taste what for it is necessary to a society?
Whether not there are teenagers as a result of educational programs concerning use of condoms more sexually active?
No, do not become. Some researches have shown, that sexual activity of teenagers after acquaintance with educational programs in which frameworks the information on condoms was given, either decreased, or remained without changes. Last researches among 16-19year old teenagers, spent to Switzerland, have shown, that programs of sexual education have not increased neither sexual activity, nor number of partners. However, that is very important, among sexually active teenagers use of condoms has increased.
In 1993 at IX International Conference on AIDS problem the World organisation of public health services (CART) has presented the review of 19 researches in which influence of sexual education on age of the beginning of a sexual life and level of sexual activity is considered. The analysis of these researches has allowed to draw following conclusions:
* There are no proofs of that sexual education leads to earlier or raised sexual activity of youth.
* Six researches have shown, that sexual education results or in putting off of the beginning of sexual activity, or to decrease in sexual activity as a whole. Results of ten researches have shown, that programs of sexual education increase use of condoms among sexually active youth.
Condoms are absolutely the best birth control for teenagers. They protect against pregnancy and disease. They are used at the time, so there is no need to fret over whether you forgot to take your pill last Tuesday. They are relatively inexpensive, and easily available (regardless of your age). Both genders can take responsibility for procuring and using them. There are, of course, a few drawbacks, but they are relatively small.
Condom use declines a little with age, and more serious relationships are less likely to use condoms. At first sexual intercourse, folks are more likely to use condoms for pregnancy and disease prevention, but as they are more sexually experienced, they are more likely to switch to other methods of birth control.”
My guess is you have teenage guys having more one-night stands, and guys are very likely to use a condom during a one-night stand, where with their girlfriends it’s not as likely. If young women are having sex more with their boyfriends, that’s probably why they use condoms less, whereas young men are having sex with women they may not know as well.