Everyday life of many people is full of events and problems. People have become so occupied with their everyday tasks and aims that they do not notice others around them. Making careers, earning money, doing household duties, we spend time on material values and do not care about our feelings and inner world. Therefore, in my opinion many of us have become more indifferent to the problems of others. We pass by poor and challenged people and we do not lend them a helping hand mostly not because we do not want to do it but because we do not have time for it. We are too busy to help others. We do not want to discuss problems and anxieties of other people. We have become more hard-hearted.
I have understood this when I became a human service helper. Earlier I did not realize that there are so many vulnerable people, who need psychological and physical help. To be more precise, I did not encounter with them.
However, having become a human service helper I saw another world of people, people who are helpless and dependent on others, still many of them are far more compassionate towards others than the majority of us.
Being a helper, particularly working with challenged people, requires many forces and much strain in the beginning, especially if you did not work in this sphere earlier. Helpers should be psychologically ready to absolutely different situations and sometimes to unexpected reaction to their aid. Challenged people might be nervous and aggressive, reject any help or on the contrary pretend absolutely helpless. At first you feel nervous and unconfident, you are afraid to say too much and to wound others’ feelings. However, the experience comes with time and having learned the peculiarities of these people’s life, you better understand them.
I have realized that challenged people occupy a particular place in our society. Challenged people are usually chronically ill and their chronic diseases are a psychological burden for them. Chronically ill people are usually painfully sensible of their inferiority to others and try to avoid companies. Thus, they become more isolated and reserved, which contribute to the worsening of depression. Unfortunately, the desire to cut oneself from the society is often provoked by the society itself. Others’ people attitude to physically-challenged people might be different and not always positive. They might be treated as inferior people or even discriminated. Obviously, such attitude results in aggression and desire for isolation.
Thus, we see that chronic illnesses usually have negative effect on ill people themselves, on their environment and on their relations with the society. However, these negative consequences might be mitigated due to another approach to the problem. These are human service helpers who should help these people to overcome their feeling of inferiority. They should show them that they should not be afraid of communicating to others. Helping challenged people to master their disease, helpers give them the forces to continue struggle with it.
To make a conclusion, I have realized that being a human service helper is a hard work but at the same time it is a very useful work, which does good for others. Besides, work with challenged people helps to change many of our principles and very often to change our attitude to life. Having seen how they can take a delight in living, we feel that it is impossible to be in depression and we start to value every minute of our life.